Dear Reader,
You are welcome once again to this wonderful edition of your favourite column. Here, you have access to the ingredients that make for a successful marital life. They shall be practically delivered into your hand and you shall be richly blessed in Jesus’ name!
I am glad to let you know that, marriage can be one of the sweetest experiences on earth and can also be a bitter pill, depending on how you go about it. The Lord designed marriage from inception to be a thrilling experience filled with joyful events, new discoveries, and the euphoria of companionship.
After designing and creating the blueprint for a happy home, God’s Word says: God saw it and rated it as very good (Genesis 1:31). But the natural man with his own rules and ideologies corrupted it and this led to the “bitter pill” experience in marriage and family.
The Word of God says: Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled (Hebrews 13:4).
As a born again Christian, God has not left you alone to be confronted with the bitter experiences some have in marriage, through the defilement of the marriage bed in courtship. Rather, He has provided in His Word, guidelines that will help you triumph in any area of your life, including courtship and marriage. If you will just follow them, you will reap the blessings that they carry.
The subject of marriage begins when two individuals, man and woman, make a decision to marry each other. That is where a real relationship begins. A real relationship is one where you love that person enough to be honest; honest about who you are, honest about what you plan to do and be, and honest about how you feel about them.
At this point, God’s Word says: Prove all things (2 Thessalonians 5:21). To prove means to examine. You prove by getting to know the person better. Your would-be spouse needs to be proved. You too need to be proved, in order to know if you can actually be a help to the other party.
This period of waiting and watching before the actual wedding is called courtship. This is the period where you determine if you have made the right choice or not. At such a time, you need to be very alert and not be blinded by romantic feelings, because marriage is not a fantasy, it is a reality. Other most important ingredients next to love in a relationship are openness and honest communication. If, as someone who is preparing for marriage, you are not at the point where you can communicate with transparency and vulnerability, then you need to work on these areas!
Communication is a crucial foundation to every marriage, and open communication is necessary in order to understand what is truly motivating each other when you have differing points of view. Courtship is a period you get more acquainted with your would-be spouse.
Despite the fact that you are getting closer and knowing each other better, courtship period should not be equated to marriage. What you do with this period determines how your marriage will turn out to be. This is actually the foundational stage of marriage.
God’s Word says: If the foundations be destroyed, what can the righteous do? (Psalms 11:3). At this stage, you can’t move in or sleep with your would-be partner in the bid to get to know each other better. It is ungodly, unhealthy and doesn’t allow you establish a good foundation for your marriage. To establish a good and godly foundation for your marriage, you need to accept Jesus who is a present help as your Lord and personal Saviour by saying this prayer:
Dear Lord, I come to You today. I am a sinner. Forgive me my sins. Cleanse me with Your precious Blood. I accept You as my Lord and Saviour. Now I know I am born again!
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